How can I best be here for and support my daughter? She has an expansive mind and is not in a good space at school right now (put 'backwards' with not like-minded and similarly capable kids). She's not doing well mentally. She is ready to have this on the table yet again and 'be a problem' in the eyes of school. How can I best be here for her and support her?
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Dear Seeker,
Answer Part 1: Psychological / Spiritual considerations
Purposefully keep the container of your love and care for your daughter spacious, soft, safe.
Practice visualising your self / your being as an expansive container in which your daughter can rest and be at peace with who and how she is. You may visualise something concrete like a nest, or something immaterial like a field of energy. Sit with this idea and let an image emerge from the depths of your mind and heart.
When your mental image has emerged, practise seeing your daughter held within this powerful container of love. See her at peace, happy and occupied in ways that nourish and sustain her spirit. Affirm and acknowledge her unique mind and being.
Beware of the effects that seeing and thinking about your daughter's mind in terms of being 'a problem' can have on the container of your love, particularly the way that your own thinking is subtly infected when you meet this thinking in others. Ensure that this tone of thought is not inadvertently shrinking the container of your love. Keep visualising its spaciousness and robustness. Attend to it regularly.
Answer Part 2: Practical considerations
What are the circumstances in which your daughter's mind and heart can soar?
Where are like-minded and equally capable people to be found?
Which places, spaces, experiences and tools sustain and nourish her?
Where does she feel truly comfortable and safe being herself?
How can you give her access to these experiences more often?
Given the importance of her well-being, what are the merits of moving to another school environment that is more conducive to her happiness and growth?
~ May your mind be agile ~ May your heart be noble ~ May your course be steady ~
Dear Seeker,
Answer Part 1: Psychological / Spiritual considerations
Purposefully keep the container of your love and care for your daughter spacious, soft, safe.
Practice visualising your self / your being as an expansive container in which your daughter can rest and be at peace with who and how she is. You may visualise something concrete like a nest, or something immaterial like a field of energy. Sit with this idea and let an image emerge from the depths of your mind and heart.
When your mental image has emerged, practise seeing your daughter held within this powerful container of love. See her at peace, happy and occupied in ways that nourish and sustain her spirit. Affirm and acknowledge her unique mind and being.
Beware of the effects that seeing and thinking about your daughter's mind in terms of being 'a problem' can have on the container of your love, particularly the way that your own thinking is subtly infected when you meet this thinking in others. Ensure that this tone of thought is not inadvertently shrinking the container of your love. Keep visualising its spaciousness and robustness. Attend to it regularly.
Answer Part 2: Practical considerations
What are the circumstances in which your daughter's mind and heart can soar?
Where are like-minded and equally capable people to be found?
Which places, spaces, experiences and tools sustain and nourish her?
Where does she feel truly comfortable and safe being herself?
How can you give her access to these experiences more often?
Given the importance of her well-being, what are the merits of moving to another school environment that is more conducive to her happiness and growth?
~ May your mind be agile ~ May your heart be noble ~ May your course be steady ~
