Artfulmind

I feel like my employer blames me that her business hasn't grown as much as she wanted. In the years we have worked together I think I have done as much as I can but I still feel guilty the business is struggling. Is it her fault or my fault that the business may close?

Short answer

Not your fault. Not her fault

Long answer

The two of you are dancing together in a dynamic field of responsibility. There are no fixed positions, no fixed events.

You each have your own set of responsibilities. You each choose the steps you are prepared to take to fulfill them.

Assess for yourself:

  • Have I taken my responsibilities as an employee seriously?
  • Have I done my work to the best of my ability?
  • Realistically, is there anything more I could have done?
  • Have I deliberately withheld my energy, commitment, skills and knowledge?

If your answers reveal matters that you need to address, do so with grace and dignity.

If your answers show you have fulfilled your responsibilities to your employer, the matter is settled. Coax your mind into accepting this and release any guilt that is present.

You do not own this business. Its ultimate well-being rests in the hands of its owner, and relies on her willingness/ability to meet her set of responsibilities.

Short answer

Not your fault. Not her fault

Long answer

The two of you are dancing together in a dynamic field of responsibility. There are no fixed positions, no fixed events.

You each have your own set of responsibilities. You each choose the steps you are prepared to take to fulfill them.

Assess for yourself:

  • Have I taken my responsibilities as an employee seriously?
  • Have I done my work to the best of my ability?
  • Realistically, is there anything more I could have done?
  • Have I deliberately withheld my energy, commitment, skills and knowledge?

If your answers reveal matters that you need to address, do so with grace and dignity.

If your answers show you have fulfilled your responsibilities to your employer, the matter is settled. Coax your mind into accepting this and release any guilt that is present.

You do not own this business. Its ultimate well-being rests in the hands of its owner, and relies on her willingness/ability to meet her set of responsibilities.